Well, it appears to be official. Our adoption agency has confirmed that yes, we do need a positive net worth in order to adopt from Colombia. And apparently when we filled out the first paperwork we had a positive net worth. That was more than a year ago before the economy tanked and things got tighter. A show of hands please, who has the same net worth that you did a year ago today? What? No hands? Why, I just don’t know how that could be! I am just so SHOCKED!
That was back when we lived in a tiny house that was worth considerably more than we paid for it because of all our renovation work. We had a truck that was paid for and a Civic that only had a few payments left. I don’t remember how I valued the worth of my business assets, I’ll just have to go back and look at that and see how those numbers even came together! LOL! To my knowledge there has been nothing in the material that said that a positive net worth would be a requirement. I haven’t taken the time to look through all the adoption material again and make sure, but I’m fairly confident of that.
So… in preparation for the adoption we bought a minivan knowing that our truck was terminal and we wanted to get as many of those van payments behind us as possible before we brought home/purchased our children.
And then there is the bigger house we purchased because of what our Social Worker said about our eligibility based on the space we didn’t have. Now we own TWO houses, though hopefully that won’t last forever. But seriously, there is no way around the math of THAT! (Though I'm guessing that in a wierd twisted way that could help? Must do math!)
Apparently everything we’ve done to prepare for this adoption is now the same stuff that currently makes it impossible. So I need to sit down with the numbers and figure out exactly what the damage is. If we had known, we could have waited on the van and not purchased the house… but then we would only qualify for adopting one or maybe two children of the same gender and not the three that we want and still be stuck in that tiny house. (Well, we are still stuck WITH that house, but not IN that house.) And adopting them separately is seriously more expensive than getting them all at once. It’s the difference between paying $30 for something or buying it for 3 payments of $25 each.
There is a way around this, we just need to figure it out. I’m thinking that we may need to find someone who will purchase our van from us and then sell it back to us soon. As far as I can tell the paper needs to be legally true the day we sign it, after that? Shaa! I don’t know where the adoption file is now, in a box somewhere. I need to (find it!) get it out and see those early numbers. And I need to run today’s numbers, I don’t even know how close we are but I don’t see it working from here. I don’t exactly know all the miracles are going to be required to make this work but I’m living in a house that is nothing short of a miracle anyway. What’s one (or a KaZillion) more?
It's for the kids... for the kids... (grumble grumble blasted adoption agency grumble grumble) it's for the kids... for the kids...
No seriously, this IS GOING to work! It's just a little demand of mine. That I'm deadly serious about! This adoption IS GOING to work!!!